Loving Perspectives

The Relationship Dance

My wusband (husband, past tense) and I used to do a dance — a couple of them actually. And I don’t mean salsa or tango. I mean that we had ways of relating that perpetuated our beliefs and fears, that we kept doing over and over. I discovered my steps in the dance through therapy …

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Loving Perspectives

Why I Am Not Praying for You

When I was married to a drinking alcoholic I used to pray that he would stop drinking. It seemed like a logical thing to pray for — like it would solve many of “our” problems. Our relationship landed me in Al-Anon, thankfully. One day in a meeting I had a realization that although I believed …

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